The delightful Torment

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What’s in a point of holding up the feelings to ourselves? If you do, then you are not living your life. You are just living the life of someone else’s.

Why am I having an hard time to reveal what I am going to write about.

Alright! Let me be straight here. I am here to talk about someone’s untold desires. That someone may be one of you or your partner or even your crush.

You might think how would I know if it is even untold. Huh!! Finish reading my article. I may reveal how I found it (depends on how I complete this).

What is lovemaking? What is your opinion about it? Is it just a pleasure or something beyond that? After all we are humans, we can be wild or we can be prey based on how we are.

To all the men out there, let me ask you a scenario. You are married and you are telling your darkest fantasies to your partner; What if she jumps in shock? Won’t you be ashamed of what you did? You have to carry this shame till your skins are wrinkled and your body shivers. So are you destined to bury your fantasies or try it with someone else?

A woman I know who is married sent me an audio note few months ago. She said that she is disappointed with her life. From there, she started complaining. She found out that her husband is having an affair. She also took screenshots of their text conversations as a proof. She started crying while reading their conversations. What made her to cry? They have talked about their intimacy.

So what have they discussed in their text conversation? I know you are excited to know. He said HE LOVED HER BROWN NIPPLES. She said HE HAD MEASURED THE DEPTH OF HER. I guess you understood. Does it really matter – the colour of the nipples? Isn’t it for breastfeeding babies? Why are women’s nipples considered a sexual organ but not the men’s nipples.

Let me talk about the features of nipples. The stimulation of the nipple during breastfeeding increases the amount of the hormone oxytocin that circulates. Oxytocin is often referred to as the “cuddling hormone” because it is released by male and female mammals during close social encounters of various kinds.

In addition to its general social effects, whereby a mother feels closeness for the baby she is feeding, there are other more specialized functions of oxytocin.

Another is sexual arousal and orgasm. Some women experiencing intense pleasure, even orgasm, from breastfeeding. This phenomenon was long written off as a mere oddity but neuroscientists are beginning to understand why it happens.

Women feels great when man appreciates her body. But why is it necessary to compare woman’s body? Every thing arose from pornography. We always look at mannequins the perfect body but it is just a plastic (mannequin is a french word means “An Artist’s model”, casted from a real human being). Even it is a plastic, the real human being behind that mannequin is a woman and man with the perfect body parts. This doesn’t mean that not everyone has perfect body shape. The pornographic actors and actress are just like the mannequins. After all they are actors, everything that you watch are a myth. They are subjected to fake cries and moans. So here comes an issue, Women expects a large manhood and men expects a perfect body women. You cannot expect your woman to moan like the actress do. And you cannot expect your man to fuck you for hours. (I don’t wish to give a deep explanation because you will realise the fact someday.)

We all know, no one is of perfect body shape. TV feeds false depiction of life to everyone. To all the men, appreciate your women’s body. Women! You are not an exception though, appreciate your men for what he is capable of. It is never gonna matter when you grow old. The only thing that matters the most is LOVE. Lust will never lasts. LOVE will surely lasts forever.

Hey man! make your woman walk with pride and confidence. Don’t let her lose faith about herself and her body. Hey ladies! You too. Never ever compare him or her with anyone else.

Can we seek others to satisfy our sexual desires? If you say YES, you don’t deserve the love. You are the utter shame to the humankind. If you are surely willing to do it, you are trying to betray your loved ones. If your partner is not okay with your fantasies, bury it anyways. Never think about having an affair. You are going to end up alone if he / she finds you ditching him / her.

Everyone wonder how couples maintain their sex life after having children. I know a girl who is married and has a 3 year old child. Whenever she tried to have intimacy with her husband, her girl would wake up and jumps to sleep between them. Most parents know that having less sex is part of life with a new baby. Yet when the children are a bit older, when the couples are less tired and they will have more opportunity to be intimate.

Does the body need pleasure even when we are at our 60s? Sex isn’t like a carton of milk that goes sour after a certain date. In fact, sex is more like fine wine; it improves with age. most people want and need sex well past 60, and continue to have it often, even well into their 80s. Sex when you’re young is sometimes frantic, explosive, and athletic. As your body slows down, sex can soften and change into more of a slow burn, but it can still be just as hot. It’s not about how often you have sex and it’s not about how many positions you can be in. It’s really about sexual pleasure, and your relationship and connection you have with your partner. When you’re less concerned about your sex stats and more focused on good communication, you’ll have just as much pleasure and passion as you did when you were young. It may just look different than it used to.

Do you think oral sex is mandatory for the physical pleasure? Myth about oral sex have long existed amongst Indians. Yet, oral sex has indisputably emerged as the hottest and newest trend among people down under. However, in India, we still notice a strong reluctance towards the, otherwise believed, most pleasurable act. In fact, oral sex is listed as ‘illegal and unnatural offences’ under Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code, stated as being ‘carnal intercourse against the order of nature’, which does not carry the potential for procreation. Apart from the legal restrictions, a lot of Indians also seem to nurture erroneous beliefs to perform or avoid oral sex. It is wrongly related to the culture of the country and is not merely considered as an act of pleasure. In India, there’s a lack of education, which has made couples ignorant about oral sex. Young girls often fear pregnancy or might relate their irregular periods to indulging in oral sex, which is untrue as the two have no correlation.

What if you are interested in oral sex and your partner is not? Then he/ she believes the myth which is Oral sex is always unhygienic, though one’s personal hygiene completely depends on their innate routines and habits, Indians still get a repulsive feeling towards the oral form of sex. If either of the partners does not believe in cleanliness and freshness, there is an understandable reluctance towards oral sex. It’s a fact that sex organs secrete and also that a man urinates and ejaculates from the same point, but maintaining good hygiene can ensure an enjoyable act.

Sex is just a pleasure. Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions. When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, it’s easy to start taking your partner for granted. The little things they do for us on a daily basis start to seem routine; they are no longer special.

P.S Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.


Published by anithaasaithambi

I am not a poet, not even a psychiatrist, not a good writer though. But I started learning from my mistakes. We are in a world where everyone is busy with their own problems and trauma. I sometimes worry that I have no one around me to listen to my problems. I am around these people where they taught to learn from my mistakes and never atleast warned or threatened what would be the result. I am glad that it will make me stronger some day. I am here to share my experiences and also the jokes and traumas I met so far. This story has plagued my mind for far too long. Typing this out is my feeble attempt to make sense of something my rational mind refuses to comprehend. Keep supporting.. Hope everyone has a very good day. Cherish each day with happiness.

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