Karma never lies

What do you know about Karma? Have you ever chanted this KARMA IS A BOOMERANG in your life? If you have, then let me tell you, someone has hurt your feelings and that someone has never felt guilty about it even when you tell them that you are unhappy with what they did.

Why are we just chanting instead of acting like them? Aren’t we having guts to break them as well? Why do we stay calm every single time?

What is karma actually? It is the law of cause and effect, the great law is what comes to mind for many people when consider what karma means. It states that whatever thoughts or energy we put out, we get back if it is either good or bad. “It’s like sowing and reaping, If you plant love and kindness, you shall get that in return.” You don’t just wait for good things to magically happen in your life; you have to actively go out there and make things happen.

You have heard someone chanting “Karma’s a bitch,” right? We hear that all the time. Somebody does something good, they get good karma. Something bad happens to someone, that’s because they had bad karma. But that’s not how it works. Surprised? Me too! We all think we know what karma means, but do we?

Importantly, karma is not set in stone, is not out of our control, and is not indirect. By this, I mean you don’t do good things with hopes of getting a randomly good outcome (karma is not doing your chores this week in hopes of winning the lottery).

Instead, it means that the steps of your life, your spiritual development, and your personality are directly molded by your thoughts and actions. Present you affects future you.

Karma has nothing to do with “fate.” If you do something negative, it doesn’t mean that something negative has to happen to you to “even it out.”

Let me share what my deep thoughts were. I always wanted to comfort everyone, I always thought of helping others, I have never felt of hurting anyone just for what they did. Im not a monk & I am not even a saint to just kept quiet for everything. Now let me reveal my deep thoughts. I always thought that they don’t deserve me, and I thought that some form of energy watches them doing a fault which will someday teach them that they are facing it because they did it to someone someday.

Is it a kind of satisfaction to wait and watch? I’m serious. Karma is not fate. Karma is an internal power that we create, for good or bad.

When we shift this to say “that’s karma,” when a bad thing happens to us, we are giving up our internal power. We are giving up our ability to change things.

It’s because of this false view that we desire to transform karma into a sort of cash machine based on our ethical and spiritual behavior.

However, if we can let go of this understanding of happiness, we can see that all we need is to live deeply in the present moment with mindfulness and discover our true nature.

Karma is simply energy. It’s our intentional thoughts and actions. The energy we generate now and in the future will affect us. It has nothing to do with reward or punishment. Karma is unbiased and it’s ours to control.

So now, let we talk about good, bad karmas & their results. First of all, let me embrace this clearly without confusing anyone’s idea or thoughts.

What are the good karmas? They are volunteering in a community, loving others as yourself & choosing what is moral over what is easy. What will be the results if we create good karma? You will be shocked with the results. Those are Strengthens society, which ultimately benefits you, increases your wisdom, helps you keep your negative emotions in balance & heals your soul.

What are the bad karmas then? Oppressing people, abusing power, stealing & cheating. You will bear bad results when you create a bad karma. They are enfeebling society, destroying your close relationships, losing your sense of self & being punished by society.

I am not a spiritual person to write briefly about Karma & its effects. But do we really know that if we are creating bad or good karma?

I always wonder if I am really a good person or not. Everyone around us, everyone close to us, says that we are a down to earth person. But each one one of us has their dark sides and we just refuse to relieve it to the world. Because we worry if it may leads to lose a relationship.

Do you think everyone is as good as they are. Everyone has their own traumas. Everyone has come across doing sins even they don’t even know that it’s a sin. So do we have to criticise them for their sins? Not at all, every one of us are guilty deep inside, we are trying to change. And we are altering our lives just to make our life better.

Which is the biggest sin than any other karma? Praying something bad for someone who betrayed us, cheated us & even broken us apart. If that someone did deserve a best bad effect for their actions, they will definitely face it with all their heart and there is no escaping. You don’t have to let them escape from their actions by taking a revenge or praying bad for them.

Say it to your heart, ‘Everything happens for a reason’.

YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW.

P.S Karma never lies. But you can. And there is no escaping.

A mind game

Aren’t we clear that at some point someone is manipulating us in every aspects of our life? From our childhood till we step into a life of retirement. Most of us doesn’t know that we are being manipulated.

How are we manipulated? Isn’t this a good question? Just to make my content clear, we must know how will someone manipulate us? What is the role of manipulation? By the way, manipulation is a skill, an unscrupulous talent. Do you think that manipulators are talented. Obviously yes, if they have the skill to ruin your peace and happiness. Then YES, they are most talented.

Manipulation is an emotionally unhealthy psychological strategy used by people who are incapable of asking for what they want and need in a direct way. People who are trying to manipulate others are trying to control others.

Have we ever questioned us that we are listening them and their voices? Aren’t we an individual? Isn’t like we are giving them an advantage by listening their voices?

Manipulative behavior involves three factors: fear, obligation and guilt. When you are being manipulated by someone you are being psychologically coerced into doing something you probably don’t really want to do. You might feel scared to do it, obligated to do it, or guilty about not doing it.

I point out two common manipulators: the bully and the victim. A bully makes you feel fearful and might use aggression, threats and intimidation to control you. The victim engenders a feeling of guilt in their target. The victim usually acts hurt. But while manipulators often play the victim, the reality is that they are the ones who have caused the problem.

A person who is targeted by manipulators who play the victim often try to help the manipulator in order to stop feeling guilty. Targets of this kind of manipulation often feel responsible for helping the victim by doing whatever they can to stop their suffering.

Gaslighting is often used to identify manipulation that gets people to question themselves, their reality, memory or thoughts. A manipulative person might twist what you say and make it about them, hijack the conversation or make you feel like you’ve done something wrong when you’re not quite sure you have.

If you’re being gaslighted, you might feel a false sense of guilt or defensiveness—like you failed completely or must have done something wrong when, in reality, that’s not the case.

“Manipulators blame,”. “They don’t take responsibility.”

When will we identify the manipulators? At every point of entering a new stage of life, we break down or sit to understand if it is a right time to move on. There comes the trouble. People who watches us from distance will console us with their ideas and thoughts. If we are open to other thoughts, we sit and listen until we make up our mind that their advise is right. We never stop them because we really want someone to show us right path. But What if their advise is not according to our passion and our morality? Do we have to choose their role based on their passion and morality? When are we going to follow ours? We have also stopped asking ourselves before letting others into our mind.

Why do we worry about the manipulators? They manipulate us in every single way. From ruining a relationship to till we ruin others as well. Let me share my experience before I move into the statement. I know a lady who is 2 years elder to me. She is a good manipulator. She observes people. She knows every single move of her environment. She is very clever but she acts dump when it comes to common sense. If I get angry at someone, I don’t quarrel or fight, I always isolate myself to avoid it. I do this often because I always want them to understand the reason for my silence. I want them to regret for their mistakes. If that lady, watches me sitting alone, she comes to me talking ill about them increasing my temper. If our temper is high, we always wanted to show it to the one who made us to sit alone not to the one who manipulated us. She will even talk ill about me to them just to make them not to regret for what they have done. And finally, the relationship is ruined. I can still try to reunite but I have to blame that lady. But who the real stupid is? ME.. exactly the only me.

Have anyone tried blaming others instead of blaming ourselves for it? I have done it plenty of times. “She is responsible”, “he was the one”, “she asked me to..”. But later I realised that I am the one responsible because I allowed them to take advantages.

I have even gossiped about others. I have one thought in mind whenever I talked about someone behind their back. What if the listener got manipulated by what I said? What if they hate them because of me? What if they ignore them because of me? What if they are good to them but I am still trying to manipulate that they are not good but ill minded people?

What these inner voices made me?

Stop talking about others.

Stop manipulating.

I am not even a good person if I still talk about a true facts about others behind their back.

If you think for a minute, we will never allow anyone to take a step forward to manipulate us.

How do we stop them manipulating us? It is a challenge. But it is worth a try.

Never respond.

Never listen them.

Never give them a reply.

Never show them that you are disappointed.

Never let them know that you are looking for a change.

Never ask them for a suggestion.

Never stop listening yourself.

Never mute yourself from saying NO.